Is Taking a Break From Your Relationship Okay?
“We were on a break!”
Of all Ross Geller’s memorable lines from the sitcom FRIENDS, the above received varying opinions, most of which were backlash from viewers.
Taking a break has since gained notoriety because it causes a confusing situation in a relationship (à la Ross and Rachel). Worse, those with more self-serving agendas, like seeing others, further vilify the act.
So, if you’re entertaining thoughts of time away from your partner but fear it might not be the right move, let me convince you otherwise—consider taking a break.
It Can Be a Good Route to Take
I understand the hesitancy of taking a relationship break. You fear that your partner will take the news the wrong way. And in extreme cases, they might see this as a green light to jump to another ship.
Relationships are tricky terrain. Often, you’ll hear people say that all you need to do is talk your problems out with your partner. Given the fear, you might be considering it now.
However, it sometimes takes space to trek across this land.
The Benefits of Taking a Break
Even though considering a break may riddle you with guilt and shame, it can sometimes be healthy for a relationship.
Here are the benefits of giving yourself some space from your partner.
1. It Gives You Space to Think Clearly
When you’re at constant odds and not reaching any resolution, temporarily stepping away from the relationship will be beneficial. It will disrupt the destructive dynamic and strain that is rapidly ruining your relationship.
Moreover, it will provide you with more space to understand the issue and solve the problem.
This step back can help you see things from a different point of view and without the emotions that can cloud your judgment. This ultimately results in personal growth and an understanding of your partner’s perspective.
2. It Allows You to Find Yourself
Is needing time for yourself ever wrong?
The short answer is NO!
Relationships, especially long-term ones, can be all-consuming to the point where you sometimes lose your identity.
When you focus all your attention on your partnership, you may end up being codependent. In turn, you feel like your life isn’t your own anymore.
Therefore, taking time apart can open opportunities for self-discovery. It can show you parts of yourself that you didn’t know were there in the first place. Also, breaks allow for the rediscovery of the sense of self you lost during the relationship.
3. You Can Rekindle the Spark
When you’re together 24/7, 365, you might find your passion fizzing out. Instead of feeling energized and inspired, perhaps you notice the opposite when you’re together. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to take time apart.
There’s a quote that says, “Absence can make the heart grow fonder.”
Sometimes, it’s easy to forget why you fell in love with your partner. And taking a break from your relationship can refuel that fizzling love and rekindle the spark you had when you first started dating.
Taking a Break Can Save Your Relationship
Many believe that a break only delays the inevitable breakup. But that is not always the case. Spending time apart may save a relationship.
A break doesn't entail failure; it can be a stepping stone to your growth as a couple.
A break is a trimmer, shaving the relationship back to the essentials. This can prevent the root of resentment due to unmet expectations and aspirations in your relationship.
With mutual understanding and some ground rules, a break can foster a healthier bond with your partner.