Will You Marry for Money or for Love? Take Your Pick

So? What if women marry for money?

Will you marry for money? Or will you marry for love?

This question has been a topic of discussion for centuries. The thought of marrying for money rubs most people in the wrong way because that’s what gold diggers do. After all, two people should only marry for love, right?

Well, no, at least not always.

The idea of marrying for love is a relatively modern development, specifically during the 18th century. But for most recorded history, love was not a consideration for marriage.

In the past, marriages were primarily more of a business arrangement.

Of Dowries and Marriages

From society’s perspective, love is the only “right” reason to tie the knot. People who don’t marry for love are deemed manipulative and exploitative.

But if you think about it, procreation has always been the reason to marry. And until about two hundred years ago, people married for financial gain rather than love.

It was a custom during the regency era of England for a father to place a dowry, or a significant monetary value, on his female children. And when they secure an engagement, the father will give the money to their partners.

The value of the dowry was public knowledge. Why? Because the higher the amount, the more marriageable she is in society.

Even if the bachelors were wealthy in their own right, they pursued women with the highest dowry to add to their wealth.

If you think about it, people used to marry for money, and doing so was widely accepted. But when people do it today, why is it held in disdain?

Just like obtaining a dowry, when you marry for money, you gain financial security, which isn’t bad per se. It is, in essence, a practical safety net.

First Comes Love, and Then Marriage

Of all the qualities that contribute to healthy and happy marital unions, love always comes on top.

Love is what turns a good partnership into a great one. It is what turns lovers into best friends.

With love, the marriage will have a strong emotional bond that fosters understanding and intimacy. It helps a couple gain the strength to face difficulties together.

Meanwhile, without love, there is much to be desired. You will never be able to have the drive, selflessness, and patience it takes to create a lasting relationship.

Marrying With Your Eyes Wide Open

To marry for money or love requires careful consideration, as it can negatively or positively affect your partnership.

But honestly, there is no “right” or “wrong” reason to marry.

Yes, love makes the world go round. However, it cannot feed you or pay your bills. Likewise, money isn’t everything. It won’t help you hold a relationship in the long run.

The fact is that both of these things need to coexist in a marriage. Both will affect your happiness and quality of life. If one of the two is missing, it will drive a wedge in your relationship.

So, instead of contemplating which you should marry for, change the “or” to “and.”