Strong, Independent Women: Do Men Love Them or Hate Them?

Independent women only have two choices: a supportive partner or none at all.

Miss Independent—that’s why I love her.

Are you sure?

I’ve heard guys sing Neyo’s hit song to their hearts up to this day. But it’s as if men don’t mean it, or at least, some don’t.

From what I’ve seen, these strong, independent women are having trouble dating; their title has become a roadblock to finding their soulmate.

So this fact begs the question: Do men really desire independent women? Or do they hate them?

Love Them

Now, this is not a groundbreaking discovery, okay?

There are still men out there who consider strength and independence to be attractive feminine traits.

Some men don’t want a damsel in distress but a woman who can slay her dragons.

Some men want a woman to shine brightly rather than stay in the shadows.

These men gravitate toward these women because they offer something to the table that most can’t provide.

These women are comfortable in their skin and are not afraid to speak their minds. They do not rely on their partners for everything; they want to be equals. They are also driven and ambitious. They don’t sit still and let fate take its course; they seize control of their lives and pursue their aspirations.

Characteristics of independent women include confidence, self-sufficiency, ambition, and drive—traits that make them incredibly attractive to men.

Hate Them

There’s no denying that many men have nursed the idea of dating an independent woman. However, they seem to have difficulties taking action. Why do you think that’s the case?

The answer is simple: They’re intimidated.

When speaking of independent women, all men hear or see women who don’t want to rely on or share life with a partner.

For a long time, men were expected to be providers, whereas women were homemakers. As a result, when a woman takes on the same role as a man, it strikes a chord of insecurity.

Understandably, men want to wear the pants in a relationship so their partner can rely on them.

They like to feel useful. They need to know they can contribute something. They want to make a positive impact on their partner’s life. Thus, some may think that there’s no room for that with an independent woman.

Ego can also be a factor. Naturally, men have a larger ego and always want to be the bigger and better person.

So, when a confident and self-assured woman with a stable career comes into the picture, they feel emasculated.

Whether we want to admit it or not, a lot of men are not okay with a woman earning or being respected more than them.

It takes a strong man to date an independent woman.

Just because some may not desire an independent woman doesn’t mean all men are the same. Eventually, an independent woman will find a partner who won’t be intimidated by her character.

One of the biggest mistakes she can make is to dispel her independence to please someone who can’t handle her brilliance.

The right partner will accept them for who they are. He will love her unconditionally while letting her shine in the things she does.