A Matchmaker’s Playbook on Spotting a Gold Digger

Uptown guy meets downtown girl…on a matchmaking site. They fell in love, married, and lived happily and lavishly ever after.

Everyone is a sucker for a classic rags-to-riches love story, like Cinderella and Aladdin. Consequently, this left many dreaming of becoming rich, which is not as easy as the fairy tales tell us.

While some turn to hard work to achieve wealth, others use other people to climb the ladder. And I’ve seen the latter happen frequently on online dating platforms. It’s not enough that matchmaking sites have to worry about romance scams. Now, we also have to be concerned with gold diggers.

But of course, many matchmaking services are trying to fulfill their responsibilities of safeguarding their clientele. But just to be extra safe, I’m sharing tips from the matchmaker’s playbook to help you identify gold diggers even from a mile away.

While not all relationships with financial disparities are rooted in opportunism, it’s essential to be aware of the glaring signs indicating someone is only after your monetary assets.

They Have Expensive Taste

When you’re in love, you don’t care where someone takes you or what they give you, as long as it comes from the heart.

However, this is not the case with gold diggers. They always want to meet up or visit the trendiest spot, even if it’s beyond their financial capacity.

Moreover, you’ll notice it in the way they dress and act. They wear the latest Jimmy Choo shoes, Birkin bag, or Richard Mille watch. And they wouldn’t dream of drinking bubbly other than Moët & Chandon. However, none of those luxuries come from their own pockets, which leads us to my next point.

They Expect You to Pay For Everything

Every time you’re on a date, it seems you’re always paying.

Gold diggers expect their partners to shoulder the cost of their expensive lifestyle, from lavish vacations to extravagant gifts.

While some people are generous and prefer to pay for the date, it should raise alarms when they want you to pay, even when you don’t have the financial means.

They Always Have a Financial Crisis

Last month, they weren’t able to pay their bills. Now, they don’t have enough for their car repairs or rent.

According to the matchmaker’s playbook, a gold digger will indirectly tell you about their financial woes. They’ll check to see if you’ll take the bait. Once they get you hooked, they’ll come up with sad stories about needing money for something to extort it from you.

They’re Quick to Declare Their Love

It’s like what Michael Bolton sang, “Said I love you… but I lied.”

Gold diggers rush to profess their undying love, even before knowing you well—similar to a typical romance scammer. This will make you think you’ve stolen their heart. However, the truth is that they’re going to extort you.

Per the matchmaker’s playbook, this declaration is their attempt to fast-track your relationship to secure financial benefits.

Wealthy Ever After?

It can be disappointing to fall for someone only to realize that your money is the only thing that interests them.

Gold diggers have no interest in love. All they want is money, and they will do anything, often using their beauty, to enchant you into funding their luxuries.

Gold diggers will show little to no interest in your character, values, or personal connection. They only view you as a means to upgrade their standard of living.

They won’t see you as a human, but as a bank. They will leave you with nothing and move on their merry way.

So, it’s a good thing to know now rather than later when they’ve milked your finances dry.