Breaking the Ice with Filipina Women

To pave your way into the hearts of women, you must first master the art of communication. It is, after all, the lifeline of every relationship. While it’s not hard to start a conversation with Filipina women, it’ll be very useful to learn how to handle these conversations to get these women to like you.

If you do visit the Philippines, you’ll find that Filipinos are enthusiastic conversationalists. They love engaging in small talk — be it in taxi cabs, waiting lines, malls or even in the middle of the street! Filipinos are friendly and approachable as they don’t shy away from strangers just to talk about their day.

In the hustle and bustle of a hectic urban life, idle chit-chat can be a welcome distraction for Filipinos. Not only is it refreshing, but it also helps keep them occupied.

Think of it as a cup of coffee. Do you know how you feel energized and motivated after you’ve finished your fill? Filipinos feel the same way. Talking to people helps them draw their energy from dynamic surroundings. It’s normal for them to seek company that they can vent out their feelings to.

The basics of holding a good conversation is inclusive to people you want to build friendly relations with. Needless to say, it applies to Filipinos as well.

There exists a VERY fine line on how to approach a Filipino man and a Filipina woman. When you approach women, you become critical of what you say around them. The same rule still applies to Filipinas — there are social cues that can also turn them off.

Choosing the Conversation Topics

Let’s say you are on a date with your ideal Filipino woman. You’ll find that she’s shy at first, but she’ll warm up as soon as the conversation gets going. Knowing how to handle the conversation is vital here, you wouldn’t want to ruin the good atmosphere in one fatal blow.

To help you with that, here are a few conversation starters for couples:

1. Goals in Life
   
   Knowing her goals in life can help you figure out a bit about her character. If she has a long term goal in mind, she most probably is ambitious and goal-driven. On the other hand, if she has a short term goal, she most probably is attentive and particular to details.
   
   Supporting her future career makes a difference when you make it in the long run. It’s easy to commit at the start of a relationship, but as distance grows, you may come to realize that you aren’t as compatible as you thought. Best to know what you are signing up for.
2. Favorite Place to Go
   
   It may be a café, a bookstore or a park. Wherever it may be, this is most probably her happy place. A person’s favorite place is often associated with fond memories, so by having her recall the good times, she brings out her best self.
3. Ideal Travel Destination
   
   Asking her about her ideal travel destination can be a great conversation starter. If by chance you both have the same place, then both of you can dive more into why you’d like to visit these places.
4. Current Pastime
   
   Ask her how they spend their free time, it can give you a few ideas of where to go next for a date. Bonding over mutual interest can surely help deepen your relationship.
   
   Also, you can have them discuss what they are currently fixated on. If you know nothing about it, it’s fine. She is more than willing to enlighten you.
5. Funny Experiences
   
   We’ve all had our own fair share of clumsy experiences. Have a good laugh, share a bit about your encounters. It may be a bit embarrassing, but at least you are willing to show your vulnerable side.
   
   And contrary to popular opinion, Filipina women like men who are soft-hearted. It triggers their motherly instinct, which is what makes them ideal wives.
6. Friends and Family
   
   Now this is where we get critical. Talking about your friends is perfectly fine. Family, however, can be a very sensitive topic. After all, not everyone has a good relationship with their family, even the Filipinos who have close family ties.
   
   But for the most part, Filipino women love their family. While it is inevitable to have a few bad apples in the tree, it can be overpowered by their love and affection for them. Some Filipinas are not privy to sharing their personal information, but some are willing to open up if you manage to earn their trust, one of the signs a Filipina likes you.

Sending them Text Messages or Direct Messages

Filipinas are no strangers to sending messages. As much as often, they’d like to be in constant touch with their loved ones. By sending them a message, you let them know that you think about them, even at random times of the day.

You don’t really have to look for good conversation topics for texting. After all, these messages can range from “Good morning” to “Have you eaten?”. No matter how trivial it may seem, never hesitate to send them a message. This way, you can show that you are still interested in pursuing them.

Understanding Filipino Humor

Humor is the best way to break the ice with a Filipino woman. After all, who doesn’t like a fun conversation? It helps lighten the mood, which can build anticipation on the outcome of your date.

To Filipinos, humor is also a way to cope. They like to poke fun at themselves to make the problem seem lesser than they are. That way, they would be able to find it easier to overcome them. Self-deprecating humor may seem unattractive to some, but it helps them come to terms with their issues.

One thing you should not do is laugh about their misfortunes. While it’s ok for them to laugh at themselves, having others laugh at their expense can hurt their ego. They don’t seem like it, but they do get hurt by insensitive comments too.

So if you find yourself in a conversation about her insecurities, allow her to laugh at herself. Afterwards, you can tell her about the traits that you like about her.

Approaching Filipina Women

To sum it up, just make small talk. When you have skin in the game, you stay in the game. You won’t win if you never participated in the first place. So give it a shot, take the risk and talk to her.